Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Your Cause... My Cause... We All Have A Cause...

Most times the causes we support aren't the ones that we chose ourselves.  In fact it is the cause that chose us!   Sad but true, it isn't until we are actually faced with an issue, or live with it that we take action.  For me it's Autism, and Dyslexia. Having children with specials needs has made me a more understanding and sympathetic human being!  

When the people you love most are struggling you will do just about anything to make it Better.  I know I have!  Believe it or not I am shy in public, but because my children cannot speak for themselves I speak for them.  I have made it my mission to spread awareness.  Even when faced with the most ignorant and disrespectful individuals.  I use these moments as a way to teach.  They may not get it at that exact moment, but they may take that moment to learn more.  They may even think twice, the next time they open their mouth to judge.  

They Are My Motivation!!!
 

I guess my point is that we should educate ourselves before you decide to pass judgement. And always remember to agree to disagree.  If all else fails,  Remember these wise words, "Opinions are like @xxholes, we all have one".  

Respect, compassion, and educate! 


Peter Frates, the man behind the Ice Bucket Challenge. Watch this piece on why and how the challenge started.  My heart goes out to him and his family, may they find a cure for ALS!!!! I will keep you in my prayers. 


Friday, August 15, 2014

Season One: Trophy Day


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Trophy Day 2014
 
Wow! What an amazing season! when I set out to start this challenger league, I didn't know what to expect.  I had a vision of how I wanted things, but because it was all so new to me, I just worked from my heart and hoped for the best.
 

 
Vincent Firsching, the President of the Bronxchester Little League kicked off our trophy day ceremony with a sweet speech about our first season. 
 

 
How grateful I am to him and the other amazing Board members that allowed me to come in and make my dream of a baseball program for children with Autism come true.  Especially my good friend Carlos Polanco who believed in me and my dream.  He was detrimental to the process. He introduced the idea to the board and pitched my idea to them. 
 

 
The players were so excited and proud of their trophies.  The smile on their faces was the biggest trophy for me!  Some may not agree with the concept of a trophy for just showing up and trying.  But for me Trying was the biggest accomplishment.  Especially when it is trying from little people who are set in their ways and have a hard time adjusting to change.  There was so much progress made by both the children and their parents. 
 


 
Because of the amazing job that everyone did this season.  We thought it would be a great idea to celebrate!  Thank you to Fairway Markets for catering our event! They supplied us with water and yummy sandwiches garnished with deliciously sweet gummy bears and worms. Their chicken nuggets and mac and cheese was pretty awesome too!
 

 
 
I searched for some cool activities for the kids to engage in while they hung out! And what a better place to find them then Oriental Trading.  They had so many cute baseball themed activities.  The kids loved trying their hand with this Baseball Bean Bag Toss Game.  Set up was VERY easy.  This seven piece set comes with the play board, stick and six vinyl balls.  It was fun for all age groups, both big and small!
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 Check out these awesome Baseball Personalized Pencils!  Every player was able to receive one! It went great with the other cool goodies we got for them.
 
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Thursday, August 14, 2014

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Thursday, July 31, 2014

Roses are Red...

Sometimes life gets pretty hectic and I feel like I'm a passenger on an amusement park ride for the first time.  You see in front of you, but you don't really know what's going to happen, until it's about to happen. And it goes very fast!  

I am a working mom of three children.  I work a 40 hour week and then go home to take care of my family and my home.  Although I must admit the home gets a bit neglected.  Just like your battles, you have to pick and choose your chores.  

I question myself a lot.  I'm a doing a good job? Should I be doing more?  Is this enough?  I tend to wonder, are my parenting methods right?  Should I yell less? Should I discipline more.  It sucks cause with all the how to books and Dr Spock books on parenting, they can never truly prepare you.  

 But then you find cool stuff like this in your bag, when you're on your way to work. 


And somehow the ride comes to a stop! You feel a burst of emotions!  


This is the best poem I have ever read and have been given!  It was written by my daughter Devynn.  She was diagnosed with Dyslexia. She isn't writter and writing is something she doesn't like to do. So it makes this that much more special! 

I may not know exactly what I'm doing and my methods may not be what the how to books say to do.  But you go by what your heart says!  


Sunday, July 27, 2014

Now Talk Fast....

So my daughter is spending time at her aunts house, and the boys are here with us.  She just called to check in with us.  

Her and Donovan have always had a very strong bond.  She is very protective of him and he always looks for her.  

After speaking to me and her dad, she asked to talk to Dono... We couldn't hear devynn but hearing Dono brought tears to my eyes.  It was one of the most spontaneous and appropriate conversations we've ever heard.  

Dono: Hi Devynn

Dev: unknown

Dono: Are you okay?  

Dev: unknown 

Dono: Great! 

Dono: Now Devynn, talk fast... (He speeds up) Everything is okay and talk to you later! Okay now Bye!!!!  

I laughed a happy laugh. That laugh that makes you all warm and brings happy tears to your eyes!  




Monday, July 14, 2014

Limitless

I remember when the doctor told me what I had already suspected.  Donovan has Autism.  I felt the world coming down on me and right away began to think of all the things in life he wouldn't be able to do!  I was very protective of him and hovered over him all the time.  

When he started Early Intervention, the therapist told me that I had to be stern and that I had to make Donovan work for what he wanted.  If I continued to just give in, he would never progress.  And so I took their advice and we made him request for things.  I was amazed at the first time he pointed at his sippy cup, after asking him what did he want.  I started placing it in random places and repeating "what do you want?", just so he would point.  It excited me. It gave me hope, but I was still very protective, and kept thinking that I had to be particular about activities, because my Dono, wouldn't be able to do it.  


My hubby would constantly tell me, "leave him, you can't keep babying him!" I just thought he was in denial, and couldn't accept that our son was Autistic.  

Dono constantly surprised me!  When he began center based EI, he learned sign, and then slowly began to say words! I started realizing that my autistic child was capable of so much! But my biggest eye opener was watching my Donomite learn how to swim with Typical children.  



Here he  is at his last lesson at Roberto Clemente State Pool, they jumped into 11ft of water.  And held my breath and was ready to jump in and save him! 


But he jumped in like a champ! 



And then he came back up and the smile on his face said it all! "I can do this!" He waved at me and swan his heart out!  


He was so at ease and was so proud of himself!  And I knew at that moment that I was limiting my Donomite!  And I would never do that again!  He is limitless!  



Here he is again, starting the summer off with a dip in the deep end!  Fearless! 



And here he is riding his bike, with no training wheels!  He insisted we take them off.  
 



He wanted to play baseball, and so he does!



He refuses to use a Tee! He wants the ball to be pitched to him!  So he can "hit the ball".  


I know how scary it can be, and how much you want to protect your child.  But, as scary and hard as it can be, you have to allow them to try!  How else will you know what they are capable of?  Will it be easy? No!  Will they have meltdowns? More than likely yes!  But just like any typical child you teach them, and guide them.  You even reprimand them if it's required.  I promise you won't be disappointed!  








Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Am I My Brother's Keeper

I remember wanting to have a child.  I was willing to do whatever it took to become a mother.  It was a process and a roller coaster of emotions.  I miscarried, and I had a blighted Ovum.  It took a lot of prayer, injections, pills, and doctor visits! 

And just when I thought I would have to try another method, BAM! I got pregnant!  I was blessed with a beautiful little girl!  My Devynn.

Imagine my surprise when she was 4 months old and I learned I was pregnant AGAIN!  I said to myself I prayed so hard God felt I needed another blessing! He gave me my Donomite!  

Devynn and Dono, immediately connected.  She was nurturing and very protective of him.  He looked up to her.  In fact, she was a huge part of his progress.  He would imitate her, and responded to her!  She didn't fully understand, but she would and still to this day tries to help others understand him.  

Every so often, she will ask me "mommy when you die, do I have to take care of Donovan?" And my reply is "you don't have to, but I would hope that you will always look out for each other" Dev and Dono have a younger brother.  My littlest one Dustin.  I am doing all I can to raise them, to love one another and to support each other.  

See, my Devynn has Dyslexia.  She struggles in school, and doesn't like to read or write.  So I worry about her too!  I push her to try her best and to have confidence in herself.  

 
This is one of Devynn's creations! It says, this is my other brother. He is Autistic, and I really do love in my heart!  I saw this on her bedroom door.  I was filled with so much emotion.  Even with all the errors, I still feel the love that she has for him.  


It shows me that I'm doing something right, and it gives me hope!  It eases my fear of the future.  I can see that she is her brothers keeper!  And her brothers will be their sisters keeper!